In 2016, I was heavy into DIY projects-think Joanna and Chip Gaines, Fixer Upper, and HGTV. That’s when I initially had the thought to start a blog. I actually still hold on to that site because it has sentiment to me. I wanted to use my blog to explore my passions.
I got the ball rolling but put it all on hold when I became pregnant with my daughter. I’m the pregnant friend with terrible nausea the first trimester so I was pretty much good for only napping. Then what do you think happened? That’s right. I had the baby and became enthralled with being a mom to two and let my piece of the web sit and collect dust.
While life was busy, I continued to be into home décor and home improvement without ever completing a project for fear of failing. To this day, I still have the problem.
It was shortly afterwards that I became pregnant with my youngest son, River. Prior to finding out I was pregnant, my husband and I had made the decision to possible relocate, either to Florida (for his job) or home to South Carolina (for my job). I interviewed in SC first and in the midst of waiting was accepted the job.
In 2019, I had the thought to re-launch my blog, except how could I when life was so different. What would I talk about? And who would listen? I didn’t have the answers but I knew that I’d figure it out along the way.
It wasn’t until I’d met with my financial coach (who’s more like a family friend) who, between having three different businesses, was educating me on why I needed to focus on only one as a new entrepreneur. I didn’t know which business to put on hold because I was interested in them all. It was just that life was getting in the way of me working them all.
How was I supposed to know which one would be more important to me? To figure it out, he asked me what my passions were. Y’all I hadn’t really thought about it and had no definite answer. I’d been just coasting through life which no clear idea of where I was going. He told me that in order to succeed in any of the three, I’d need to focus on one.
I pondered over the thought for a few days before it smacked me in the face. I sill don’t remember why it took me so long to know what I’m most passionate by. My passions are my children and my husband. Nothing else consumes me more than those 4 people.
This is how I came to the realization that I needed to take better care of my wants and needs too. I’d put off blogging for too long and needed to get back to it.
I began doing the work, and most importantly, researching to ensure I started my blog off right from the beginning. It’s not easy and requires so real effort.
Now, frequently, people ask me why I’d want to blog. I have a good job with a decent salary (considering the average) and I’m always busy. It may be hard to understand but blogging is an outlet. It serves as a way to connect with other wives, mothers, and women experiencing life in the same light.
My life is unique to me but it’s mirrored all around the world. There are plenty of women losing themselves in their families too. While my family is my passion, I want genuine connections with other people too. I want to know that someone out there is screaming, “Yaasss girl me too!”. I just want to share my experiences with others and I want other people to share their experiences with me. If in the end I can help one person, I’ve done something.
I want to share my story with the world.
In my Instagram bio I didn’t say I was a dope Southern chick for no reason. It’s through my posts on relationships, parenthood, travel, and occasionally womanhood that you’ll connect with me. I’m pretty transparent so what you see is my true self. I’m the wild friend who grew up an only child. I’m the friend that twerks for adventure. It’s time the world gets to know me.
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