There’s nothing worse than getting to your bedroom and finding it to be blah (like you left it). You can start finding joy in your bedroom with just a few small changes. When you’re in your space with your loved one it should be a special place that you look forward to retreating to together. When the bedroom doesn’t give off romantic vibes, that can impede the lovin’ between you and your spouse. It’s important to create the ambiance so y’all are vibin together. Below I will give you some tips to creating a space you both will love while always staying in the mood.
I suggest having a neutral color on your walls. Did you know that colors in your home affect your mood? Here you want to stay away from bright and very dark colors. Be more experimental elsewhere. When it comes to wall décor, keep it simple and to a minimum. You don’t want to clutter the walls in your bedroom. When the walls are cluttered they affect the energy and keep you distracted. Imagine trying to get in the mood only to glance at the wall and lose your thought.
Get you a bed with a canopy and posts y’all if your space and wallet permits. Imagine large posts offering you a little swing action. Who wouldn’t want that? I’m totally kidding. But if you have the ability, add a little drapery. You can use drapery to give off the illusion of posts. Ever watch movies where they have drapery on the bed with posts? Exactly! Sudden mood changer. Another way to create romance is by layering the linen. When I think of layering linen, I think of some of the nicest hotels I’ve stayed at. To accomplish this, add a ruffled bed skirt, soft sheets, and lots of pillows to create a romantic setting. Upholstered headboards are also thought to create a more romantic vibe compared to say a wood one. Investing in these components of your bed can make a big difference.
Change out your light fixture and replace it with one that gives off a romantic glow. Now I get it. Sometimes you need a little more light than “soft glow”. Consider recessed lighting if able. If recessed lighting isn’t your think, try to make sure the nightstand lights are less bright offering a romantic touch while leaving the bright ceiling light.
Also, when thinking of light consider your window treatments as well. One thing I find romantic is when the curtains drag the floor. It gives off a timeless look. I always place my curtain rods to the ceiling and get longer curtains to create a dramatic affect in the room. Currently my room doesn’t have window treatments but they’re on the home “to do” list and trust it’s a long list. Make sure to incorporate blackout curtains too if your budget allows. Nowadays, you’re able to get them reasonably priced. My suggestion would be to shop around. I used them in my first home and loved them. They can help create an intimate setting during the day. Let’s be honest. That was totally pre-kid and now pre-Covid.
emove your phone charging stations. Keeping your phone next to the bed makes it easy to devote time to your phone instead of your spouse. Again, guilty as charged. Moving your phone and it’s charger, across the room helps keep the bed rockin’ because you don’t have the distraction that is your phone. Another big one is keeping the nightstand clutter free. Here’s a public service announcement! Clutter results in stress and near your bed where you sleep should be the last place you want stress. Here is where I’m failing too. I need to do a purge of the things on my nightstand.
Smells, Sounds, Oh My
One thing I love doing when making my bed is spraying the linen with lavender. For me it’s lavender but for you it might be vanilla (the more recommended smell) or something else. I, personally, love an air diffuser and plan to buy one for the bedroom but shhhh don’t tell my husband just yet. It’ll be a surprise. For an added touch, consider the sound in your room. When it comes to sounds, keep a romantic playlist that you can play in your room. If a sound machine helps here, be sure to keep one handy. I, personally, love the sound of the rain setting. I remember reading that the Gaines’ of “Fixer Upper” don’t have a television in their room. Their rationale. It prevents you from being lazy and keeps you into your spouse. Imagine how much more you and your spouse could accomplish if you weren’t getting into bed to watch tv. I haven’t been able to sell that idea just yet so, for now, our tv resides.
Well there you have it. When thinking romance, please don’t forget these small tidbits for your bedroom. I don’t know about you but I love spending time in my bedroom and not necessarily just for sleep. It’s an important space in my home. I hope you can use one thing here and make your bedroom warm, inviting, and enticing for you and your lover. You both owe yourselves.
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